Just as you don't earn your age, it simply happens: you discover that stupidity isn't achieved, it simply cripples you. It's all in the nuance: gonna die of a heart attack anyway, so hedonize your watches, all of you body-parts-still-intact
The narcissist may insist that the ideal method is always based on a two-fold no-fault premise. Let's say you recognize that the ferosity may be diminished but the play time carries on. The one fold is the attraction and the deuxieme joyau is the legitimacy love brings to endurance.
If codependency is empathy on steroids then maybe the binary is passive sociopathy. Tempered feelings are different than buried ones but balanced navigation of the good news/bad news emotional tightrope comes so much easier when the two-fold method is in place.